From the September OA Sea to Sky newsletter …
What is the road to relapse? It may well be practicing the 12 Steps in reverse! If you’re struggling, does this sound familiar?
12. Having let up on our spiritual program as a result of not doing the Steps daily, and putting our personal priorities ahead of carrying the message, we let our fellows fend for themselves and once again practiced our own ideas.
11. Let our conscious contact with God as we understood himlapse by not making time to meditate and praying only in emergencies for our will to be carried out.
10. Slacked off on personal inventory and when we were wrong, denied or hid it.
9. Forgot about finishing list of amends because it’s in the past now, we are doing fine, we want to leave the past in the past and just move on.
8. Rationalized the harm we had done others by justifying that no one had been hurt by us more than we had been hurt by them and so we decided it’s even.
7. Prayer is “I’ve Gotta Be Me.” We decide it is more important to take some time to work on ourselves which includes loving and forgiving ourselves before we can love and forgive others
6. Become unwilling to see that there are defects of character that need removing.
5. Decided to once again stuff down deep inside ourselves all the harm we have done. Pride tells us we don’t need to admit to ourselves, to God, and to anyone else that we did anything harmful; fear tells us we must not admit it.
4. Quickly cast a weak flashlight over our moral inventory and focused on what’s wrong with the world and everyone else to avoid focusing on ourselves.
3. Made a decision to keep our will and our lives totally in our own control, because we don’t understand God and think we won’t get what we want.
2. Came to believe that we still have some good ideas in how to solve our problems and are unwilling to accept outside help from God or a sponsor.
1. We decided that we “got this” and have no interest in compulsive overeating and binge foods. Now we have information, determination and fear, plus sit in on some OA meetings, we will be fine. – Anonymous
The Road to Recovery
In fact, there’s only twelve things we have to do to recover: 1. Admit; 2. Come to believe; 3. Make a decision; 4. Make an inventory; 5. Admit some more; 6. Become ready; 7. Ask; 8. Become willing; 9. Make amends; 10. Continue; 11. Improve; and 12. Carry this message.
If you’re struggling, OA’s helpful relapse-prevention document “Been Slipping and Sliding? A Reading and Writing Tool” is updated with page references for the OA 12 & 12, 2nd edition.